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Dr. Elizabeth Fried

Dr. Elizabeth Fried

Executive Coach

Since 1983 N. E. Fried and Associates, Inc. has proudly served more than 1,500 clients worldwide with its products and services. We specialize in organizational effectiveness and talent management, offering products and services in executive assessment, 360 feedback, organizational culture surveys, performance management, coaching, training and development, and compensation research. MyExecutiveCoach, along with TheLearningEngine.org and Intermediaries Speakers Bureau are divisions of the firm.

We enjoy getting to know our clients and taking the time to understand their needs. Our most satisfying consulting engagements occur when clients work with us as partners to solve business challenges. This arrangement keeps us on our toes by creating an environment for continuous learning and improvement.  We maintain alliances with a variety of professional coaches, consultants, psychologists, assessment vendors, and training developers to assure we bring you the best available resources.

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Are you Playing it Safe?

This is a continuation of our series on achieving success. Many of us are plagued with habits that keep us from being the best that we can be in our job, our career, or in life. Say Hello, Wave Goodbye!™ is an innovative coaching approach that removes those destructive habits and allows you to move forward and gain success. This series of blogs addresses the 12 most common habits that hold you back. They are called Core Dynamics of Common Problems™, which are excerpted from my chapter in the book, Coaching for Success (2008). You’ll learn why you are stuck and how the removal of these dynamics will set you free to pursue your goals. Last time we covered Fearing Change. This issue will cover Playing it Safe.

8. Playing it Safe

This dynamic is particularly prevalent among women who are commonly taught to “be nice” and not make waves. So sometimes the glass ceiling can be self-imposed, negatively affecting their careers. It also affects men preparing for executive positions. Here, both men and women are limiting self-expression because they tend to hold themselves back in the fear of losing approval of others or that they’ll be leaving others behind. It’s based on the illusion that if they powerfully express themselves; they are going to be isolated. Many times people who could go well beyond their potential are afraid that if they really express themselves and do what they really want to do, their peers, their parents, or their family won’t love them anymore. They’ll be abandoned and they will feel lonely at the top. What they don’t realize is that there are other people at the top and that they will make new friends.

Regrettably, playing it safe because of fear of isolation promotes mediocrity. We see this all the time in business. In the corporate environment there are often politics involved. Knowing how to express oneself in a politically charged environment adds to the challenge, but is possible. Thus, when this dynamic is removed, one can say, “I am fully self-expressed without fearing loss of love of others.”

Stay tuned for #9: Trying To Force an Outcome

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