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Mary Delmege

Mary Delmege


Mary Delmege works with courts and community organizations as a Mediator in Southern California. She recently retired as Director for nine US Commercial Service offices in Southern California and Hawaii.

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Mary Delmege has worked closely with Commercial Service offices throughout the world. Ms. Delmege's organization offered counseling, market research, matchmaking services and coordination of overseas trade shows and missions.

Her background includes a variety of management and advisory positions for the US Commerce Department, including Senior Advisor to the Trade Promotion Coordinating Committee. In that role she was instrumental in developing the National Export Strategy based on feedback from focus groups, interviews and surveys of small and mid-sized exporters.

Ms. Delmege began her Commercial Service career as a Foreign Service Officer in Mexico City, where she directed market research and outreach activities.

Contact Mary at mfdelmege@cox.net

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Are you putting your Passions on Hold?

As the 2008 Olympics in Beijing wind down, we had a chance to see a special group of people who have pursued their passions well beyond what most of us only dream about.  Even the athletes that didn’t go home with medals have reached the pinnacle of their sports by virtue of qualifying to compete in this global forum.  So where does that leave the rest of us?  Are we just going to sit on the couch and cheer as Michael Phelps wins yet another gold medal?  Do we tell ourselves that we’re too busy or too stressed out to pursue that secret thing that makes us happy?  Alternatively, we can choose to be inspired by their accomplishments and use that inspiration to find the energy to pursue our own passions.

The problem for those of us who put our passions on hold is that we find it hard to push aside practical (serious) activities for impractical (non serious) pursuits. We are like the very serious Mr. Banks in Mary Poppins who didn’t have time to go fly a kite when the entire British banking system needed his immediate and undivided attention.  The real issue, however had nothing to do with flying kites and had everything to do with embracing the sheer passion of being alive.

Passion and joy are very much like muscles – when you stop exercising them, they tend to atrophy.  Whether your passion is pottery or music or surfing, if you treat them as though they aren’t important enough to spend time on, you will lose out on the joy and creativity that they can bring to your life.  When you do exercise them, you will find that the benefits spill over to other aspects of your life.   Spending time doing the things you love will create new energy that you didn’t know you had. 

As you get deeper into your area of passion, you may find that doors will open for you in unexpected ways.  Layoffs, early retirement and other unplanned life changes can leave you without any financial or emotional resources to draw upon if you’ve put your passions on hold.  Put another way, if you’ve put all of your eggs in one basket in terms of your skills and interests, if that basket falls away, you can be left in a very sad place.  The people that have managed to pursue their passions while fulfilling their more responsibilities with a mundane or less exciting job, will find that they are much better equipped to deal with life’s changes when – not if – they occur.

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